Triangles, or, why do I feel so confused?

Interesting and challenging patterns arise in our lives when we find ourselves in an unpleasant pattern repeatedly with an individual. “What just happened? How did I get into that mess again?” we wonder. It’s possible you just got triangulated!

It’s the love-me-or-leave-me game translated to “if you’ll agree to let me be, even though I’m being antagonistic, everything will be fine. If not, I’m going to act like you’re my enemy and make you feel crazy.”

Coming from a lover, parent, sibling, co-worker or friend, it doesn’t seem to make sense. You scratch your head, you try to do better, and when you get back hostility or feigned innocence, you probably try harder.

Better advice is to quit trying, even though you’re not ahead. For some reason you’ve been dreamed up to play out a role that isn’t yours. You’re wearing a face not your own — possibly the other person’s parent, ex-, or someone he or she has unfinished business with. (Hence the idea of a triangle–someone is present whom no one can see.)

You may feel like what you say is intentionally misconstrued, and that this person has turned on you. You may feel like there’s nothing you can do right, or somehow they’re in a bad mood, or whatever. And there’s probably a gram of truth about it that you want to dispel–yes, you did disagree about something, but you don’t hate her. Maybe where you come from disagreeing is seen as a normal part of life (as it is, in case you’re wondering.)

In other words, there’s not much you can do to change the situation without compromising, unless they come out of the trance they’re in with the unseen third party. Meanwhile, I encourage you to take some distance and reckon that there may be more invisible traps in the future with this person until her issues from the past have been worked out. Try to keep you head clear and take care of yourself, setting boundaries with love (or not), staying connected or not, and learning an important life lesson.

The Earth-Path That Cannot Be Spoken

If we think of ourselves as coming out of the earth, rather than having been thrown in here from somewhere else, we see that we are the earth; we are the consciousness of the earth. These are the eyes of the earth. And this is the voice of the earth.

–Joseph Campbell

In this piece I hope to offer a portal for entering into awareness that there is nothing that needs to be changed, only a path that can be found and walked in the course of living one’s life. We are already fine. We may be a frustrating or lost version of fine, but that takes nothing from our essential true nature, our innate unique just-so-ness.

Throughout our tenure on earth people have sought ways of maintaining a sense of what is important and what has true power. The art painted on the walls of inner sanctums thousands of years ago is being interpreted by current researchers to suggest they are portrayals of the human need for a sense of order and of self-transcendence. The caves were evidently the sites of highly significant rites of passage, with animal figures thought to stand in for the gods of later generations. Today mosques, synagogues, temples and churches replace those caves to represent the same human endeavors to create a sense of order, and to move both inward and beyond ourselves. Universally, humans have continued to use rites of passage to both create and to connect with their society’s sense of cosmic meaning, as well as to connect the individual with her[1] place in that society.

Naturally, we continue to ask, “How can I stay grounded in the midst of life as it swirls around me? How can I make decisions that are true to myself and beneficial to myself and others?”  We might even be bold enough to ask, “How does the world work? Is there meaning?” If we undertake such big questions, we run the risk of hitting a wall: each society seems to define meaning differently, and some have come to feel that religions offer only very relative answers to their most demanding questions. Yet today there are many who venture into such questions without a traditional path to offer guidance.

I count myself among those who have tasted of several traditions because their members seem to enjoy peace, find meaning, and appear to love one another and care about our world. Each of these has offered me good sustenance in some respects. None has answered the big questions thoroughly. Nor should they be expected to succeed at that in a way that works for everyone, since it’s impossible to speak to the differing realities of billions of individual incarnations from different cultures and histories. This is the reason there are thousands of spiritual traditions on earth.

The diversity of our languages and traditions over the face of the earth is also one of the reasons the earth-path approach is so appealing and effective. It calls upon a presence-based response to our human need for tranquility and ease in the face of life’s challenges and mystery. One need only be a person who is of the earth clan to practice earth-based awareness as a means of finding one’s own path and peace at any given moment.

Each of us comes here invested with the ineffable, Life itself, and owes our being to that mysterious occurrence. Life is the greatest of mysteries, and life’s source. We can talk and analyze, compete and war over the legitimacy of our belief systems regarding what is, ultimately, unknowable; or we can opt not to engage in nailing “God” down with words, which might be considered the ultimate form of crucifixion, and rather choose to engage in living a more conscious life than analyzing it too finely. Each of us organisms has its own life to live on this earth, and its own beautiful true nature; beyond that, not much can be said with surety without entering into conceptualizations of the mind. Instead, we each need to find our own paths in the earthly bodies we inhabit, no matter what creeds we do or don’t believe. And yet, I also am a great respecter of the importance of the rites of passage that strengthen us for the trip through human life. Traditions that point out helpful guideposts will always be important and necessary.

From: Beautiful True Nature